No Need to Settle: You Deserve the Best!

It really hurts me when I see women that are in relationships that are not treating them right. It doesn't have to be that he is hitting you to be an abusive relationship. Even verbal and emotional abuse takes its toll. I speak from experience when I say that whatever "abuse" you are willing to accept now only gets worse. I made the dangerous mistake of thinking that it was just a punch to the arm, it really didn't hurt that bad. WRONG! At that moment, the first time, I saw my 2 paths laid out in front of me: I could leave now and lose the man I love, or stay and hope that he changes. Many women make the mistake of thinking that if they leave, especially if threatened, that he will harm them or their loved ones. I, too, heard that song. In my case, it may have been an empty threat, but it manipulated me to stay. But, believe me when I say that you CANNOT change a man that exhibits this type of behavior. I am spreading this message today because it was only at the end with his hands around my throat that I realized this had gone too far. All the years that I thought I was changing him suddenly fell in my lap. I saw that I had to get out- but it was realized almost too late. Verbal and emotional abuse, in some ways, can be even worse. Bruises heal, yet it took me a lot longer to get over all the webs of negative thoughts running around my brain. The longer you put up with abuse, the longer it takes to get over it. Some of you may read this and think that they don't need to take heed to this information. I do suggest keeping your eyes open for any signs of violence or manipulative behavior. Even if you just don't feel satisfied in your relationship, please do not ever feel that you have to settle. A strong woman would be happier alone than with someone who they feel is not meant for them- in any way. For those women who have wonderful partners in life, congratulations! Do whatever you can for that man, he deserves it. A good man is becoming a rarity these days and I do appreciate those men. In conclusion, women are so beautiful just because we ARE women that to "settle for anything less than what you want or deserve"(to quote my Momma) is just a shame. No one (man/woman/animal/plant) deserves to be abused in any way. Please seek help if you need to- don't wait another day!


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